Is all fair in love and technology?
There is no doubt about it that technology has altered the game of love.
At first, I think of the online dating sites, such as eHarmony, that have entered the playing field, but those aren’t the only technologies that have rocked the traditional way of finding your soulmate; texting and social media also add another form of communication.
These technologies are introduced with the claim to make it easier to communicate, to make and maintain relationships. So, naturally, everyone delves into it with these expectations of ease. And in some ways, these new communication technologies live into that expectation. Keeping up with a friend halfway across the world has never been so effortless. Birthdays are never forgotten. Introductions are a daily thing.
But, in my opinion, having access to these new technologies has muddied the water more than made a clear path. How so?
- Conversations never end. Texting and social media boast that you have the ability to talk to someone 24/7, so why shouldn’t you? You want them to know you care, so you continue texting, tweeting, Facebook messaging, etc. to prove that. This can cause relationship fatigue even if you’re barely around the person. There is no space for someone to miss you. Where is the fun in that?
- The value of face-to-face is diminished. You finally get to see and communicate with someone in person, yet your phone is continually gnawing at you to read your new messages and updates. How often do you put your phone away when you’re with someone? How often do you have quality time with your significant other, friend or family member that is uninterrupted? Everything is so much sweeter in person. Don’t trade that in.
Don’t get me wrong, I love technology and all the benefits it brings. It’s a great tool and it needs to be used as just that. Everything in moderation. Well, except chocolate. That can be embraced in any amount.
This Valentine’s Day, consider putting your phone down while spending time with the people you love.
I guarantee you won’t regret it.